Actually, you let the control freak wins when you let them inside your head. Remember that you are the rational one with reasonable expectations for what can and cannot be done; do not let the unreasonable desires of another person make you feel deficient in any way.
It is important to get the controlling person to know that you will not tolerate being bossed around; the longer you accept it the more it becomes taken for granted and established. Talk to the controlling person privately to explain your concerns and how this controlling behavior is affecting you.
It is important to behave patiently and calmly with the control freak, though you may feel like screaming on the inside. When it is clear the person is stressed out or tired, it is helpful to give them a wide berth because if you start to get angry, the controlling person’s behavior will become more intense.
Take deep breaths and keep your voice steady and even; if you seem obviously upset, this will only fuel their behavior. Getting upset will make the bossy person see you as an easier target to control, and you do not want to give that impression.
Sometimes, you feel the only thing you can do is to avoid the person and remove yourself from the situation. Keep in mind to stay out of their way if the person is a family member; this person will keep criticizing you on everything and this will hurt your feelings and make you furious.
It is very hard not to take their criticism personally, and the worst thing to do is to fight with such a person. Remind yourself that this bossy behavior is not a devaluation of you; it is rather their coping mechanism