Perfectionism sounds on the surface like a good thing, but it is sneaky. After all, perfectionism is a strategy for success, but success is out of reach when you measure it by your ability to be perfect all the time. Sooner or later, perfectionism does the opposite of what it is intended to do.
If you look closely you will find that perfectionism is just another name for self- judgment. In seeking to be perfect, we get self- critical every time we fall short and we become our own worst enemies. Because good is not good enough, we never meet our own standards of perfection.
We believe we must rise up to this unrealistic perfect so that we can succeed, so we set ourselves up for perpetual failure, disappointment and depression. Perfectionism is a moving target because there are always improvements to make; what you thought would be perfect is full of flaws that must be corrected to reach the perfect state.
What is perfect tomorrow may not be perfect the day after; there is always more to seek. When you are seeking perfection, you will see everything that is not up to the anticipated level and you will develop laser beam, pinpointing every aspect of imperfection.
Our ability to celebrate our hard work is impeded by a slight imperfection; our results are never good enough and we never feel satisfaction and joy, so perfection is in conflict with our happiness and peace. It is true that perfectionism motivates us to do the best, but it also generates a huge amount of pressure and stress which may develop procrastination; it might get harder to get started in the first place.
In order to create a life that is most joyful and fulfilling, you need to go out of your comfort zone, but fear of failure due to seeking perfection makes you avoid taking chances and you base your life on the “sure thing”.