We are programmed to keep proving we are worthy over and over; once we stop doing whatever we are supposed to do, we feel unworthy. You find it difficult “not to do”, when your worthiness is attached to doing, but you must give yourself permission “not to do” in order to free yourself. Doing this does not mean you abandon your commitments and responsibilities nor does not require starting over somewhere else and changing your whole life.
It is important to notice all the places and relationships where you seek permission; you might look for permission at work, but you are quite independent at home or vice versa, and make your observations lovingly or
you miss the point.
As long as you need approval of others, you will find yourself trapped in a messy web of seeking permission. To expand your ability to give yourself permission to be and do what you desire, you have to stop seeking external acceptance or approval.
When you try something new, give yourself the space to make mistakes without self- judgment; the more you seek permission from others the more you judge yourself. Make yourself independent of everyone and everything, instead of gaining a sense of conditional worth from what you do. Meditation will help you connect with the higher part of you that knows your unconditional worth.
You must trust yourself to make conscious choices; if you do not trust yourself, you will not give yourself permission. You need to connect with your all- knowing consciousness that guide you for your highest good all the time to make it easier to give yourself permission.
Prioritize your self- care; you do not have to make the needs of others come first giving yourself the time left over, if ever exists, until you burn out or get sick.