First, if we want to put a definition for self-esteem then let’s just say it is a criterion for how much you love yourself. And since we need to love ourselves a lot not just to live well, but also to survive, raising self esteem is an indispensable necessity.
So how do you raise self esteem?
1- Be around positive people and avoid poisonous people. Positive people are those who always support you and want to see you grow and flourish. They care about you and are true in their love and affections towards you. On the other hand, negative people try to put you down and belittle you, hinder your development and lower your self esteem.
2- Be more positive about yourself and your life. Remember that everyone faces difficulties and hardships, so facing an obstacle once in a while or even more often shouldn’t leave you lying face down. Write a list of all the blessings you have and the good you have achieved to remind yourself of how good your life really is.
3- Make a heart-to-heart talk with yourself, maybe because you somehow forget it in the midst of life’s difficult struggles. What is it you like or dislike? What are your goals now, and what were they before? Do you think you are improving? Do you love your life now more than today from a year ago, or the year before it? What is it you want to do or enjoy doing? The answers may do wonders to your self-esteem.
4- Perfectionism is not an option, literally! It is an established fact that we humans are flawed and these flawed are what makes us wonderful. So stop trying to be “topnotch” at everything or you will be stressed out and miserable. You are you, so don’t compare yourself to others. Become better but not perfect.
5- Be compassionate and considerate towards other people. When trying to ease others worries and troubles you make them happier, and when the people around you are happier, you will become happier yourself and the achievement will boost your self esteem. Besides, you will guarantee that others will do the same in your time of need.