As we all live busy lives, most of us do not have time to do everything we need to do. We habitually take many things for granted in our marriages because we have a history and we always come back together.
We assume that our spouses already know our feelings for them, but they actually need to hear certain things from time to time such as “I love you”.
We think we do not need to keep saying it, but it is important on a regular basis to let our spouses know they are loved and we want to be always by their side.
What a joy it is to hear your spouse say “I enjoy being with you” no matter how long you have been together. “Your opinion and your feelings are important to me” is important to hear for one’s self- esteem. It is great to know that what you think and feel matters to the closest person to you. It feels good to hear “You look great”; it shows your spouse is paying attention to how you look, and it encourages you to do the effort to look your best.
When you say to your spouse “I’m glad I married you”, you are saying “I choose you out of everyone else in the world to be my life partner in the good and bad, in the joy and sorrow.” We need to ask questions like “What do you want to do?” and possibly sacrifice what we want to do for the other’s desires.
If something is not as important to you as it is to your spouse, then give to your spouse in that area. Hearing words like “I cannot wait to be with you, I miss you when we are not together and I look forward to being at home” is encouraging and can help your spouse never feel disheartened.