– Watch how the other person behaves with other people; if their behavior with others is similar to their behavior with you, then it is part of their personality and you probably do not need to take their actions personally.
– Observe how others interact with the person in question; see how they deal with that person so you can know, without having to experiment yourself, what works and does not. By viewing the situation objectively, you can get a new and helpful perspective to deal with that person more easily.
– Look for that person’s positive qualities that could be buried under layers of unpleasantness and focus on these positives so you might better appreciate the other person. By figuring out the positive traits of the person you do not like, you can think of a context in which that person would not be as hard to stand.
Trust your instincts if a specific individual makes you feel threatened in some way. For example, if your coworker has the habit of stealing credit for others’ work or ideas, you better avoid working with that person.
– It might be the best thing for everyone involved, if you can stay away from the person you do not like, but try to make your efforts to ignore that person not too obvious. You can also become more objective about the relationship between both of you when you stay away for a while.
If the conversation you have with someone you do not like gets more intense, find a point on which you can sympathize to defuse any hostility building in the other people, thereby the interaction can become more tolerable. It will be hard for the other person to pick a fight if you are in agreement.