A person with frequent temper outbursts, especially if accompanied by bullying, is more likely a controlling person. Usually temper outbursts happen when you do not do what they want you to do or you disagree with them. In their minds, when you do not comply with their wishes or disagree with them, you are challenging their authority over you.
Unluckily, their inability to handle their anger can be taken out on you as verbal, physical or emotional abuse. It is more likely that someone in their youth was doing the same with them, and they are repeating what happened to them, so it is not your fault they hurt inside.
As a controlling person thinks you can read their mind, so if you ask questions about what they want, where to go and what to do, they get frustrated because they expect you to know all their needs that should be placed ahead in priority over yours.
A controlling person mostly assumes they understand what and how you think, even when they actually do not. Controlling people are not good at giving compliments because they do not want you to feel good about yourself. When they have to give compliments, they actually point out some defect or flaw in the other person.
If you are attractive and the controlling person is not attractive, then watch out because there is a good chance that the controlling person will make your life miserable for they will probably become jealous and will do their best to reduce your confidence.
When the unattractive controlling person feels threatened by your attractiveness, they do not give compliments but they will keep reminding you of your flaws. A controlling person will try to control and even criticize your opinion, the way you dress and speak.