The secret to your child’s social happiness and mental health is self- esteem and the main source of it is parents; it is the basis for your child’s success as an adult. When you are feeling good about yourself, it will be easier to feel good about others and get along with them, i.e. self- esteem affects how you act significantly.
The child must think of himself as someone worthy of love, and he must be comfortable with himself. Raising confident children with a healthy self- worth, it does not mean they are arrogant or narcissistic, but it means they understand well their weaknesses and strengths, working on their weaknesses and enjoying their strengths.
A baby whose cries are sensitively responded to and who spends many hours in a caregiver’s arms feels loved and develops self- worth. It is very important that your child feels you are there for him.
On the other hand, if the child’s cues are not answered and his needs are not met, this leads to his conclusion “I am not worthy”. That is why early nurturing is very important because during the first two years the baby’s mind is like a file drawer, which is better to be full of positive images and feelings rather than negative ones.
The secure children who are used to the feeling of well- being, they cope better with life’s setbacks; if they fall down, they get back on their feet because they are motivated to mend their sense of well- being.
However, children who did not develop this sense of well- being, they are vulnerable and not strong enough. Finally, do not be hard on yourself if you did not practice parenting attachment styles; it is never too late but remember the earlier the better.