To avoid disappointment at the end, we need to identify certain signs that mean the other person is not ready for a real relationship; they just want something less committed or casual. A relationship has to be nurtured to grow like a plant; such evolution leads it to certainty and solidity.
If an individual is not willing to make the effort for propelling a relationship into maturity, or does not see a relationship as developmental or progressive, then this person is not ready for something serious and real.
They are always after what they could benefit from the relationship rather than to give. They do not want to make any sacrifices that would make them more involved. Taking makes them feel good and in control, while giving sucks to them.
Chances are they have been through many casual relationships in the past, and they cannot tell what a real relationship means. They are not accustomed to put much energy in a relationship to make it a success.
When it comes to discussions or actions that signal they are willing to be in a real relationship, they get elusive and appear vague about what they really want, which puts such commitment at bay.
Being previously hurt could be the reason for seeking less commitment; they find it difficult to go through pain again. Therefore, they prefer to stay
away from something real and play it safe.
They see your family and friends as elements representing commitment, so they avoid meeting them.
They see and talk only about the negatives of being in a relationship; they do not see its positives. They do not understand the meaning and depth of a real relationship, and they always talk against it to their friends and loved ones.