A bossy or controlling person sounds like an uncompromising parent; they may use words like “do what I say, do it now” without asking nicely. Such person always tries to control you and situation making you feel childlike. This person may ignore your rights, skills and experiences, impressing their abilities over yours.
A control freak tends to be in charge and to think they are entitled to boss others around; this makes them feel better about themselves. Their controlling tendencies are revealed through their manner of using power; they are disrespectful, pushy, arrogant and dictatorial.
People who respect others under their guidance make good managers or leaders, and this includes directing by suggestion or example, trusting and authorizing you. Be aware that some nice people can be controlling; this is the nagging personality type that insists if you do not do what they ask, a disaster will fall down.
They may say it to you sweetly expecting you to be grateful for their nagging reminders. They may let you know that you are extremely unreasonable, while they are the voice of reason. If you find yourself the receiving end of decisions without having a choice and you are expected to be pleased, there is a good chance this person is a benign dictator.
A controlling person is often uncaring or unaware of the impact of their bossy actions and words on others. This could be a result of unhappiness and insecurity, and it may also signal outright arrogance. You should realize that your value does not stem from this person and that you are an equal of this control freak, even if their behavior suggests otherwise.
When the bossy person is a family member, he or she can negatively affect your self- esteem making you feel awful at times, therefore you need to remind yourself that this controlling nature is their problem not yours.