Sometimes, things fall apart or do not work out the way we want them to; unforeseen events occur and it feels like too much to take. It is important to understand that life is cyclical; while the bad times may feel never ending, eventually good times will come out.
The key is to understand that whatever situation you are facing shall pass; maintaining a sense of perspective can pull us through life’s hard times.
When you cannot seem to figure a way through a situation, remember there is always a choice. You can choose to let it destroy you or strengthen you; knowing we have a choice can provide us with a sense of empowerment. It is also important to realize that struggles we face can provide a deeper understanding of life.
One of the few powerful, yet easily forgotten, tools that can help you get through any situation life throws at you is acceptance. It is of great importance to accept what is actually happening, since pretending it is not happening is utterly tempting.
Sticking your head in the sand does not achieve anything; denial simply keeps us stuck because if you do not accept what is happening, you will not find the means to heal and move on.
It is easy to fall victim to the situation, when you feel like life’s
punching bag. When we are feeling hurt or angry, we look for something or someone to blame and we ask the old question “why is this happening to me?”. Taking it personally leads to a cul-de-sac of resentment; if you want to start healing from a tough time, you need a change of perspective or willingness to see the situation differently. Know that any situation that feels devastating at the time will eventually pass and you can dust yourself off and get through it.