We are acutely alert for any signs of disapproval or judgment and we do not take much; any sign of disapproval is interpreted as permission denied. You may not hear “you are not allowed”, but you know when others are withholding love and acceptance because they do not like your new ideas or your behavior.
There is no doubt about disapproval when you hear statements like “I hope you know what you are doing”, leaving you feeling powerless and unworthy.
You must have come across situations when you were thinking “I’ll show them”, but it does not have to be this way. You do not have to rebel against those who do not give you permission, and you do not have to show anything to anyone to prove you are worthy.
You just need to give permission to yourself full heartedly and stop looking for it. Most of us are so conditioned to withhold permission from ourselves that we do not even realize we are doing it. You have to stop looking outside yourself for permission; you are the only one who can give you permission to be yourself.
Give yourself permission to express yourself, follow a radical dream, speak the truth, dress the way you want to dress and love who you want to love despite culture and family expectations. Start with discovering who you really are to choose consciously who you want to be.
Following your heart’s desires and your dreams requires expressing yourself and having the courage to expand your comfort zone and to say no. As we are afraid to give ourselves permission to be, have and do what we really want, we are also afraid to say no to what we do not want.