Try the ‘yes’ strategy with your child: ask your kid questions that prompt to answer with ‘yes’ three times at least consecutively such as “How about taking your bath toys and swimming goggles with you into the bath?” The three yeses in a row will break down your kid’s resistance.
When taking your child to bed, follow the options strategy like “which book do you want us to read before sleep?” If your kid responds “I am not going to sleep now”, do not give in and say calmly “then you choose not to read tonight”, and if your kid makes a fuss, stick to your word so that this episode will not be repeated the next day.
You need to establish a connection before taking your kids to their bedroom by taking few minutes sitting beside your kid, showing interest in the TV show they are watching or the game they are playing. When your kids feel connected to you, they will more likely do what you ask.
You can negotiate a deal with your kid: if you want your kid to sleep at 9:00 pm and they want it 10:00 pm, you can make a deal with them that they can get into their room at 9:00 and play quietly without getting out repeatedly and you will trust them to be in bed at 10: 00 pm.
Stubborn kids consider this deal a win on their side, but make your child understand that if they break the deal, they will get back strictly to the earlier bedtime.
If your kid is a picky eater, do not talk about the food and talk about anything else because picky eaters always wait for a chance to fight over food. You can intrigue your kid to eat their veggies by putting a plate of nice desert they like on the table, which is allowed only after finishing their meal.